Let's face it. Today we have a lot of tools and information at our disposal. We can leverage all of these to let the better version of ourselves to come out. But beside this, it's vital to learn to modulate our attitude towards every aspect of our busy lives.
To a certain degree, we are aware of our attitude. Nevertheless, many times we fail at handling our attitude properly. It really determines how we perceive things and situations. And also how we are perceived by other people.
Anyway, rest assured of a fact. The way you react to what other people do should be your domain. You can always be in control and choose whether your inner dialogue is one of strength and encouragement or weakness and self-deprecation.
Every one of us is bound to experience hard times at some point in our life. What's important is to understand deeply that we have the scepter of dominion in our hands. We have the power to rise above any situation and use them as ways to improve. Conversely, what many people do is to let the external situations use them.
Being way better than a computer, our mind can be programmed. We can literally choose any kind of 'software' we want to install into it. The only issue is that we all carry behavior patterns we learned from a very early age. These can be absolutely inadequate in adulthood. The good news is that you are old enough to carefully choose your input. An that will inevitably determine your output. Possibly a different one.
This means that the messages you accept will determine the quality of your attitude and will account for your negative or positive mindset. The key here is to be conscious of your inner dialogue and take both responsibility and control of it.
Having an attitude of confidence is definitely the result of an introspective work. You should know yourself to such a degree that you become capable of correcting some of your flaws promptly and efficiently. In this light, meditation and mindfulness are great tools to get you there!
Negative Attitude: Where Does It Come From?
Well, that's essentially a bad habit you want to eradicate from your mind. Right now. When you keep revolving a negative pattern around people, conditions or things, you definitely build momentum. But a negative one. Eventually it becomes a consistent part of your personality. You might not even realize that you have a bad attitude simply because you've been practicing it for so long. It can feel like that's just the way you are. But if that doesn't reflect the person you aim to be...roll up your sleeves and work on yourself.
You know, negative attitudes often can lead to a vicious cycle. If you always expect the worst, what will you get in return? That's right, Sherlock.
So, how do you break this cycle?
It takes a lot of conscious work. Improving your attitude requires you to change your subconscious. This can be done by consistently analyzing your thoughts and putting things into perspective.
It's just like replacing a bad habit with a constructive one.
Now, you could argue that negative situations are a part of life. I couldn't disagree more. Sure enough, situations in life are really neutral. It's entirely up to you defining 'bad' a situation from which you could just extract a valuable lesson and move on.
How To Improve Your Attitude Towards Life
Once you've established that you feel ready to change your attitude for the better, here's what you can do to start with the right foot.
The Power of Affirmations
Affirmations are indeed one of the best means to reprogramming your subconscious. Remember that you owe negative attitude to consistent negative thoughts. That's why you need to act in just the opposite way. Once chosen, repeat your affirmations several times a day. Every day. But mark you, they need to be true for you. They need to be relevant to your own life. If you do this properly, positive feelings will follow as a natural consequence. And this will lead you to act accordingly.
Knowing Your Motives
Motivation is at the core of every single thing we do. It's fairly important for you to identify motives to make changes in your life. Whether that's self-preservation, fear of becoming someone you never intended, financial gain or love, motivating yourself requires conscious work. This can translate into enthusiasm for your projects, a positive outlook and a healthy self-esteem. Ultimately into confidence in yourself and what you can do.
If you lack enthusiasm, you'll have issues staying motivated. Enthusiasm translates into determination, passion, strength and ambition. This is what gets you going and keeps you moving. That's because you need to nurture this empowering characteristic. Just keep the big picture in mind and remember that every step you make has its purpose and it's leading you to greater things.
Visualization and Its Importance
Visualizations are a great tool to help you cultivate enthusiasm and keep yourself motivated. Especially when you're going through difficult times. It's the act of forming mental images of what you wish to accomplish and how that will feel once you do. It's basically laying the 'etheric' foundation of the goals you want to achieve in order to improve your attitude in the present.
Monitor Your Inner Dialogue...
Your inner dialogue is beyond important when it comes to developing a better attitude towards life. It's a reflection of your core beliefs. So you need to steer it in the right direction if you want to get rid of negative attitudes. Learn to listen to that little voice in your head and correct yourself when it's necessary. Because it will affect your actions. Be consistent about this and you'll soon notice that your attitude is improving little by little.
...And Your External Dialogue as well!
Last but not least. Your inner dialogue is essential, but what you say to others is no less important. What you say is a reflection of your inner world. So be mindful of what you say. And be always ready to correct your thoughts.